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Friday, February 20, 2009

The Bane of My Kitchen Existence…Dishes.

I HATE DOING THE DISHES.  This card sent to me by my mother-in-law hangs on my fridge to reinforce that fact every day.  I think the greeting card writer must have overheard me muttering these words one day and thought, “Hey! That would make a funny mother’s day card!”  I’m expecting royalties.

Anyway, yesterday I walked into the kitchen to yet another sink full of dishes…

Wanna know the weird part?  They’re clean.  Yes, I almost always have a sink full of CLEAN dishes. While I hate doing dishes SO much, I usually manage to get them washed.  But for some reason I have a mental block when they reach this state.  I just can’t bring myself to grab a dish towel, dry them off, and put them away.  It’s weird. I know.

Whenever we have guests, they’re just confused.  I invariably find dirty dishes stacked on top of the clean ones.  Because, honestly, have you ever seen a sink full of clean dishes?  Am I the only one?  Nate hates it.  But after nearly 10 years of marriage, this is one battle he’s given up on. Smart man.

And if a sink full of clean dishes is NOT the bane of your kitchen existence…I’m dying to know what is. Fess up!


  1. I end up with a drying rack full of clean dishes because I hate drying them and putting them away as well. My husband doesn’t get it, either. Guess I’d fit in around your house, though (or you around mine) 🙂

  2. Flour on the counter tops. Seriously, I hate cleaning that up, it’s gooey and gross, and because of our camo granite, you can’t tell when the gunk is really gone. I hate that and water on my face.

  3. I do the same thing with my clean dishes (I have a sink full right now). My husband despises it. I just figure he can’t say anything because he didn’t have to wash them in the first place, nor is he likely to put them away.

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    I almost always have a drainer full of clean dishes. And if it’s empty, it’s because we just put them away only to start washing more! I don’t like doing dishes as it is, so once they’re washed, I’m done! They can dry on their own. Fortunately I don’t get complaints from my husband. He’s really good about doing them when I don’t want to.

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    I am the same way about putting away dishes. Drying racks make me ill, so I just put a dry dish towel on the counter and stack them there. We ALWAYS have a counter full of dry, clean dishes, though. I just realized I sort of have a system: clean dishes on the left of the sink and dirty ones in or on the right of the sink. I don’t think my husband has picked up on this, though!

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    Jane Maynard

    so funny! I’m definitely not alone in this! 🙂

    melissa – just be glad you’re not cleaning up flour on tile countertops. that’s the WORST.

    as I read your comments, I realized my laundry habits are quit similar…I’m getting better, but it’s happened many times that I fold the laundry just to free up the baskets to do more laundry. gotta love it.

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    I am lucky that if I cook my husband does the dishes, our only problem is no one puts them away….

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    So when Jen lived there part of the contract was a portable dishwasher. Did you not get it?? It was brand new when they moved in. Too bad.

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    I have a similar issue – but with the laundry. I can get it washed, dried, and back into the basket. Folded and put away – not so much!

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    Nate should have the put away job on all clean dishes.
    It’s the least he can do. Right?

    What helped me was the idea I got from an organization web site.

    Always dry out your sink at the end of the day. It makes you feel soooo good. Give it a try. Then you HAVE to put the dishes away. : )

    Kids are often more important, however. Cheers!!

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    Jane Maynard

    oh, we totally have the dishwasher, michelle. thank goodness. these are the dishes that need to be handwashed. imagine what the pile of clean dishes was like in our last apartment with no dishwasher!!! 🙂

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    one more comment on the flour on the counter. I hated cleaning that up too after bread making. I got one of those little square plastic scrapers and it’s now a cinch…and if you are really crazy – use the vacuum hose to clean it up. Sometimes that’s more work that we want.

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    I don’t mind doing dishes but I hate to put them away. So they languish in the dishrack until someone puts them away. New, clean dishes will be put on over old clean dishes until the tower of dishes has to be dealt with. I usually tell my hubby that if he wants to show me he loves me he’ll put them away. But then I can’t find anything. Oh well.

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    I am in the same category- however I was able to achieve great heights with my creative stacking of dishes and learned a lot about balance and dishdrainer capacity. This all because I once had a nurse ( they are always right) tell me that dishes that are air dried have fewer bacteria on them than towel dried dishes – and you KNOW how finicky I am about germs. (ha) (it was a good excuse)

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    I can’t believe it bigmimi – I was going to post the exact same bit of ‘true’ information as soon as I read all the posts and yikes you beat me to it – but only by minutes!!!! Air dried dishes are much ‘cleaner’ than dishes dried with a dish towel….believe us ‘old’ ladies!

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    Me TOO!! I think emptying the dishwasher is my least favorite household chore.

    I let my “air dry” dishes dry on the stovetop…and put them away the next day!

  17. There’s a Swedish saying that’s goes something like, en liten phreeten yeeten beeten…

    It means a little bit of germs keeps you healthy!

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    Everyone without a dishwasher is going to hate me, but my pet peeve is when someone loads the dishwasher in a completely senseless way – flat dishes on the top rack, mugs on the bottom, and nothing fitting right. Then I have to reach in and move around the dirty dishes. Yuck.

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    Hahaha. Jane, I’m with you. I hate washing dishes and putting them away! I guess that’s why we are perfect for each other?! I’m always up for a good public flogging :), but I have to say that dishes in the sink don’t bother me anymore. Maybe I’ve matured, become more sympathetic, or maybe now that we have a dishwasher and the spoons don’t sit in the bottom of the sink with a little bit of slowly evaporating water applying a nice crusty coat of tap water minerals, it doesn’t bother me anymore? 🙂 Cate’s almost old enough to wash dishes? Right?

  20. So wanna know what my dish drying rack looks like? It’s really pricey, and high end.
    It’s my dishwasher. Or let me rephrase that- it’s my BROKEN dishwasher. But it sure makes a great drying rack. All those hand washed clean dishes ‘put away’, out of sight, out of mind. Until I realize i have to put them away. ugh.

  21. I used to leave all my dishes in the dishwasher until I had to reload it with new dirty dishes. Then it broke 2 weeks ago and now I have to wash by hand. I hate dishes… I forgot how much I hate doing dishes but I really do. I leave them on the counter on towels (I keep hoping my hubby will buy me a new dishwasher so I don’t buy a drying rack) until I either need the counter space or need to do dishes again. but I do the same thing with laundry too I can wash it and even hang it (we are really green at my house I even cloth diaper) put it back in the basket and there it stays until I need to do more laundry and then it goes on my bed (because I tell myself I will fold it while this new load is washing, right? not.) Then at bed time I remember oh ya I was supposed to fold these so in a nice pile on my floor they go until I either make myself fold them or someone uses them. I hate laundry more than dishes. If I had to choose, I would choose to do dishes.

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    sometimes i pretend i’m on a gameshow and i have to put to clean the kitchen as fast as possible. this is of course when the kitchen is in disaster mode (b/c i live alone, i let the dishes pile up until i have enough to run the dishwasher.) or i’ll try to put away just the utensils before the microwave dings. i know, so lame!

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    haha! why is it that we all hate drying and putting away dishes so badly? i can definately agree with this! i can’t stand a mess in the kitchen as far as dirty dishes- i am more than happy to wash them. but to dry and put away is a whole different story! i always let them air dry in the dish drainer and put them away the next day while i’m waiting for pans to preheat or water to boil while cooking dinner. and really, i try to put everything in the dishwasher that can fit. as far as laundry goes- it’s the same thing! don’t mind washing and putting them in the dryer, but folding and putting away always annoys me. i’m so glad all of us can relate!

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    air drying is supposed to be healthier than using a towel, did you know that?!

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    This post and all the comments were just what I needed today. I have the same problem!! In fact just the other day I said to my husband I would cook but then I would just have to do dishes. So it was a fend for yourself night. I was totaly beating myself up over this today. It is so nice to hear that I am normal. (or as normal as the rest of you;-)) I don’t like putting away dishes or laundry.

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    Me too. I have a dishwasher but the stuff that can’t go in it sits (rinsed but unwashed) on my counter for a long time. It sits even longer in the sink waiting to be put away. I’m not sure why that is.

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    That’s where a double sink comes in real handy! Usually the right side is always clean, but sometimes members of the household forget! Just the fact they get washed is good enough for me!

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    Just found your blog. Love this post because I always have a sink of clean dishes too and then when I have more to clean I empty it. I can wash all day but drying and putting away NO!!! That is why my kids chore is emptying the dishwasher!

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    Jane Maynard

    a-HA! as soon as Cate is big enough to reach the sink and the cupboards, that will be her job too! 🙂 very wise, melody.

    I love that the comments just keep coming on this post…cracks me up!

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    I put a drying rack INSIDE my sink. Then people know it’s there for the purpose of clean dishes, I don’t have to dry them immediately and it’s much less of an eye-sore in the sink than on the counter.

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    I too share your bane… but my husband & I have had a rule from day one- I cook, you clean & vice versa… this makes him realize that I won’t be too tired for other things…

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    Jane Maynard

    ha! 🙂

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